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I AM A MOTHER ... WHO HAD TO MAKE A CHOICE

I am well over 50 now and my addict in his late 20’s. When most of my friends and family ask - "How is your son?” I reply "He is OK", and quickly change the subject.

Except I am lying.

Even though he is physically matured - he is a long way from being OK, and I am living with it by myself, not telling anyone. Sometimes I don’t even admit it to myself. I am just plain telling untruths. I cannot speak about my other children because I don’t have any, so I try and put the best spin on his situation, or just keep my mouth shut and don’t offer any information about him.

As a loving parent my plan was to bring him up with a healthy mind and body, with the potential to become whatever he wanted. I expected him to grow into an independent, generous, kind, happy, successful, law-abiding, contributing member of society who made the most of all the advantages my husband and I had worked so hard to give him.

Except he didn't. ...



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Your Role as Helper:

  • not to DO things for the person you are helping, but to BE things,
  • not to try to train and change the addict’s actions, but to train and change your reactions,
  • to change your negatives to positives,
  • to change fear to faith,
  • to change contempt for what the addict does to respect for the potential within the addict,
  • to change rejection to release with love,
  • to try not to make the addict fit a standard or image or expect him/her to measure up to or down from that standard, but to give the addict an opportunity to become themselves,
  • to develop the best within the addict, regardless of what that best may be,
  • to change dominance to encouragement,
  • to change panic to serenity,
  • to change false-hope, self-centred to real hope, Higher Power-centred,
  • to change the rebellion of despair to the energy of personal revolution,
  • to change driving to guidance,
  • to change self-justification to self-understanding.

Through working the Nar-Anon program we change in ways such as these, allowing us to change the world about us and all the people in our world for the better.

 

“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”

Jacob M. Braude



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