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 Subject :Guidance through the wilderness..
2017-03-22 20:37:46 
Joined: 2015-09-16 11:56:20
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I've been with my addict for 8yrs now and it's been a long and painful struggle, he's been in recovery for 8months now which is wonderful, but our marriage is knocking on deaths door. I'm not sure I have any fight left in me. We have kids who will suffer more from our divorce, they love him so much, he is a very good dad, involved and hands on, they've been a big part of why it hasn't happened yet.

I'm just so unhappy and alone, I don't know what more to do.

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 Subject :Re: Guidance through the wilderness..
2017-03-23 07:15:00 
Joined: 2009-01-24 07:20:07
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Location: Western Cape

Hi Dee19.

In the few words you shared, I sense your pain. All of us who share this platform have at one point or another been in exactly the same position. Fate guided me to find this Nar-Anon Support Group Meetings and today my life has dramatically changed.

In Nar-Anon I rediscovered the importance of focusing on myself and my recovery from the affects of the addicts addiction and to never lose hope that someday things will change for the better.

My recovery was a slow process but at every meeting I attended, that life changing message had a positive effect that I felt daily when applying the program in my life.

You have started your recovery by reaching out. Although you have not shared where you at, please find your way to the nearest Nar-Anon meeting. Our complete meeting list is on our website under the main menu.

Meeting attendance is free and managed by members who have all walked this path and found serenity and peace through applying the Nar-Anon program. I encourage you to find your way to your recovery through our support group meetings.

If meeting attendance is not possible, then sharing your story on this forum is another option you might consider. We trust members will be ale to share some of their positive experience, strength and hope in recovery you may find of assistance.

We welcome you to the Nar-Anon family.


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 Subject :Re: Guidance through the wilderness..
2017-03-24 08:53:22 
Joined: 2012-09-18 18:31:31
Posts: 32

Hi Dee

You so right when you say it's like being in the wilderness. Having to deal with addiction is already difficult and when you have no support from family it makes it ten times worse.


Initially I dealt with the it in isolation, feeling ashamed of the problem. When I finally started sharing with people, I felt judged and received advice from friends that seemed inappropriate and things felt unwilling or incapable of implementing. All this did was increase my loneliness and feelings of desperation.


When I discovered Nar-Anon, it all changed. Here I found people with similar problems, who understood my issues, shared relevant information and never gave me advice but shared how they dealt with similar issues, allowing me to build my own strength in my own time while always giving me hope that things will get better.


Stay positive. NO problem lasts forever but please help yourself by getting to your nearest Nar-Anon Support Group meeting. I got all my help there and today my life with the addict has turned for the better in so many ways.


Stay strong, Be patient, Find Help at Nar-Anon


Check out the meeting list. Hope you can find a group near to you. If not, keep sharing your story and trust others will be able to assist.



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