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2010-12-15 21:41:01 
Josef
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What a great fellowship this is!

I slip up, share this with you and...

...there you are, supporting me, strengthening me, encouraging me, sharing with me and making my resolve stronger.

I truely feel blessed and honoured to be in such great company.

Just for today: I will honour and cherish the fellowship of NarAnon, whose group concience is guided by a Higher Power

I will have coffee (and biscotti) with you guys anytime!

 

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2010-12-16 10:08:57 
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Hey Jurgen,

Well said.  And that is how we make da circle bigger.......

PS now don't be teasing us with those biscotti's hey.....

Be well my friend

Mary

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2010-12-18 12:13:34 
yusuf
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Hi Mary. He wasn't teasing with the biscies at all. He brought some lovely stuff to the meeting. We were all surprised to find it was his BIG day. Had a lovely singalong. You missed out girl.

Thanx for your words. I am faced with a troubling situation and have been vexed on how to deal with it. Just know that taking it head-on will be difficult. I've decided to sit on it and hand it over. Pray some more and await some guidance from my HP. Until I read your comment I was feeling very betwix it all. Glad to have you all around at times like this.

Welcome back Jurgen. Glad to see you active again. Want to stay on board more regularly to raise the testosterone levels. As with meetings, we always outnumbered. Not that I'm worried. Enjoy the Eve company.

Let's keep the circle of wisdom growing.

Yusuf

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2010-12-30 20:14:45 
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Hey all,

Darn it.  Missed the biscottis.  Well that mean that Jurgen will just have to whip up another batch I guess.  Miss you all.  Will be back in first week of the New Year.  No one to look after kids just now and husband works nights.

Hugs all,

PS Joe if you reading this - are you aware that the lead singer of Boney M died today.  My friend I think we need to be careful of our Christmas wishes - remember one of mine was for somebody to shut up Boney M..... Lordie.

Be well

Mary 

 

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2010-12-31 08:28:33 
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Heita M.

Good to see the old year is still keeping you 'barefoot and p p p ... leasant?'  Did you really wish that? I just wanted all their vinyls destroyed. Is djy moetie helm gebore of wat?  Uhhhh ... I apologise profusely for all the not so nice things I might've said about you, in ALL the threads herein and others. As you may have noticed, with all the running around, I do value my health, heheheee. Think good of me ... pleaseeeeee. Love youuuuuuuuuuu.

To all my web buddies - chrislee, broken, mary, twinzel, jojobo aka jürgen, faheema, justcandis, ally, lutfeyah, mary-k, yusuf, helga aka babushka, candice, angel05, hope4me and (sorry, my RAM finally crashed)

... wish you all a fantastic festive transition. May 2011 hold peace, serenity and happiness in abundance for you and all your loved ones.

Mucho Gracias for all the nice times in 2010. Hope 2 cu next year for more of the same.

Lets make the circle even biggerrrrrrrrrrr.

Final 2010 sign off.

The J Man.
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2011-01-01 13:28:53 
Josef
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Hello dear All

Mary: It's about time you gave up this "Silent Night" treatment, you' ve taken that sing-song much too serious for my liking. Now don't dare to let me make biscotti for next Thursday and then you will not show up. I will only take good exuses!

Yusuf and Joe: let's keep on showing the ladies that men can be caring as well! 

I love today's quote in the SESH book.

"New Year's Eve is like every other night; there is no pause in the march of the universe, no breathless moment of silence among created things that the passage of another twelve months may be noted; and yet no man has quite the same thoughts this evening that come with the coming of darkness on other nights" ~ Hamilton Wright Mabie

Here is another one by this great American poet:

      “To have a quiet mind is to possess one's mind wholly;

to have a calm spirit is to possess one's self.”

To all my fellows:

May the new year open sliding doors of oportunities for you and may God grant you the wisdom to use them appropriately.

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2010-12-31 17:54:16 
yusuf
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Thanx for the invite Jürgen.

I trust you will accept I care for biscotti's just as much.  Canceling my leave. I'm coming to the meeting next week. And if Mary's not there, I'll at least be able to give an honest opinion regarding texture, quality, taste, etc. Sure after five or six or ... I should have a reasonable opinion. LOL.

Friends, countrymen, et al. Have a fantastic last few hours of 2010. Stay safe, look after yourself and see your next year.

Love You All.

 Yusuf

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2011-01-01 15:50:17 
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Hi All

I am having a much betta weekend than the last.

I saw my addict today for the first time in a month. He seemed well, He looked 'clean'. Shared a pleasant afternoon with him and the kids on neutral ground. It was a bit strange at first, but I decided to instead of worrying about what was and could be, to enjoy the moment and count my blessings. This helped relieve the pressure, and the afternoon turned out good.

It was hard saying goodbye, especially when the kids asked him when he was returning home. he battled to answer without choking up. Hopefully he can use thi experience to give him hope.

2011 is going well for me. Hope it continues in this vain for me and all of u guys out there.

luv

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2011-01-01 21:46:37 
yusuf
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Hi broken.

So glad for you. Good to hear that the meeting has left you with a warm and wonderful glow. You have reminded him of what he is missing. 

A thought struck me on reading your share.  In struggling to answer the kid's question, the solution and thus any feeling of guilt as a result, remain HIS.

I took on much of the monkeys that belonged to my addict and walked with heavy shoulders. Only until I learnt to "detach with love" did I successfully start, only start, to leave him to resolve the issues that were his to solve. I was always quick to rescue him from his burdens, but left myself feeling used and abused.

We can only trust that by letting them experience for themselves the consequences of their addictive behaviour, they will make the decision to 'turn the corner' and make the choices that can lead to a life of serenity.

I pray 2011 will be a start to better things. Sometimes the tunnel can seem to have no end, but you have already experienced a 'glimmer in the distance'. Pray the light get closer.

Patience, Perseverance.

Yusuf

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2011-01-02 14:14:21 
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Heita broken.

Me like the growth I see in you. Your get together is also a reminder of just what a great relationship you had and can still have if all the individual entities come to the party. He would have seen the same.

Just another reason to strengthen your resolve and support your decision to follow the route taken.

Jurgen, welcome back. I was thinking of joining the rose bushes, just about started to buckle when you made your presence. Me ain't no thorn, well not a hard, sharp rose one anyway. Rather one of those soft springy one's.  Have a great year my friend.

Mary, enjoy the peace and quiet with the fam. You deserve all you getting. We'll wait ... impatiently, but wait for your return. Collect some biscottis for me too.

The J Man.

 

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2011-01-03 12:57:40 
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Hola All,

So that settles that. I will definitely be at the meeting this Thursday for biscottis and coffee. Will complement our usual date loaf very well me thinks. My friend is well and settled at the other meeting now so "other" home group homies I will be back with a bang and usual noise.

Joe - guess who has been playing on the radio this morning.... yes you guessed it.... the Boney's.  And this time I felt compelled to listen to them out of guilt...  hope my guilt only lasts for a brief spell though. Don't think I can manage too much of them regardless of my wishing them gone and now their lead singer is dead.

Hugs and kisses all. Hope you all had a wonderful New Year.

Mary

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2011-01-09 17:13:46 
yusuf
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Hi Mary.

Sorry to hear of your busy evening. Missed you on Thursday, but guess what was the result? Yes, I went home with a handful of biscottis. Sorry love, it was good with cold coke on the evening and even better with coffee over the following two days. so, you will have to try and try your luck with Jürgen once again.

I suppose our web circle will start to explode again soon as most come from holiday and/or get back to work.

Let's keep the circle growing.

Yusuf

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2011-01-21 09:33:35 
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Hi All,

Hey where is Joe?  Earth calling Joe?  Waar is jy?  Ek miss vir jou soos peanut butter and brood.  Where is my honorary brother from the hood.. Joe I hope you are only on holiday and not gone awol.  Like we said before to Jurgen, we will hunt you down and bring you back hey. I miss your humour on this thread my friend.

PS I will be going to deep dark Africa for 2 weeks or so and so will be absent for a while.  Joe you better be here when I get back.  How is daai for controlling ne.....

Be well and have come coffee for me

Mary 

 

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2011-01-21 13:12:00 
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Hi All

Just to wish all well over the weekend.  Just want to share a little piece of wisdom that a friend passed on to me:

"If you are going through hell, the only person who can truly rescue you is YOU! Take back your power by refusing to think like a victim. Keep doing what you can with what you already have and keep moving progressively towards YOUR dream.

AND

The moment we fully believe in the extraordinary power of our own minds is when we are released from being victims of any adversity."

Love you all.  you are in my prayers.

L

 

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2011-02-04 11:15:06 
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Twentzel....Twentzel .... Twentzel little star.  How I wonder where you are?  lalalalala. 

Missed you at the meeting last night.  Up above the world hummmmm, robbing us with of a diamond in the room lalalala.

Enjoy the weekend all.  Hoping Mary is back next week

L

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2011-02-06 12:25:14 
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Hi all,

I am back and so happy to be home.  Lord Africa made me so sad, angry, proud, happy all in one go.  Never before visting another country have I felt so many emotions all at once.  God the poverty is bad.  But you know people still smile, still take time to be friendly.  Are still loving and kind.  Most live on a one day at a time basis and really put into practice let go and let God.

I was just so bloody embarassed by the South Africans that were lording it over everybody.  You know them old boys club from our big mining companies. Eish!

But being back has made me so proud of being a child of the African continent.   It taught me much on a personal level.  But mostly it taught me to be grateful for what I have.  You know the basics, like water and electricity.  Aai my hare het al weer husitoe gegaag in the African heat - but hey I felt damn groovy.

Lotsa hugs

Mary

Jy waar is Joe???

 

 

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2011-02-10 14:18:30 
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Hey....why no response from anybody.

Was all that talk about being African...... Lord.  Okay next time I will say I went to Antartica or something. Yetta.  Taking it very personal here.

Anyways - just wanted to say hi,  Am procrastinating while I am suppose to be working ..

 

Hugs to you all

And really Joe where are you.  You pearls of wisdom and adorable humour is needed my friend.. Hope nothing happened to him.  This is what comes from being anonymous - we can;t even phone to check if he is okay. 

Okay be cool all.

Mary

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2011-02-16 19:32:22 
yusuf
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Hi Mary.

I don't think it has anything to do with your African adventure. Myself, have some hectic issues at work. New exec and "new broom sweep clean" seem to be the order of the day. Life and it's work demands change daily, forever looking for more info, more detail, more, more, more.  Can't even get to doing the normal stuff.

Anyway, getting home at night has other challenges and getting to bed at 10pm has become a an even bigger challenge.  So, long story short not sure what has affected all the others. Missing in action I assume, but trusting will return soon to bless us with some more wisdom. Maybe it needs more of your charm to 'tease' them back, LOL.

Promise to become more regular.

Hang in there.

Yusuf

 

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2011-03-23 20:00:07 
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So in the spirit of the Coffee Forum....

Where are the coffee drinkers???  Joe, where for art thou?  Now we see you now we don't.  Miss you.  And Candis - whatsup sister??  Where did you disappear to? At least Broken, Yusaf and Luftweya is still hangin in there.

By the way Broken ..... is the name descriptor still working for you???

Guys guys guys, coffee is free on this site.  Yeah I know I also went awol.... but come on folks come back come back where ever you are. 

I have spare time now and you know what happens when Mary has too much spare time ne'..... yes she meddles in all sorts of things...

So bring the coffee, buscottis and buns... Yes Jurgen and Twentzel you too

 

 

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2011-03-24 14:27:27 
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Hi All

Glad to see you're back my friend uhmmm Mary.  Today I am grateful for healthy Nar-Anon meetings where I learnt to place principles above personalities.  Meetings where I can chat to other fellowshippers without fear of being judged eventhough it is over Marie biscuits and coffee - no wilson blocks there!

I am also grateful that I can keep the focus on myself as when other members share their opinions I recognise it as theirs and do not allow them to take away my power.  In Nar-Anon we learn that "the opinions expressed is merely those of the person who gave them.... keep what you like and leave the rest.  when a person says something that you do not agree with remember that they are merely speaking from their own experience".  So that keeps me very healthy.

So there you are folks, express your opinions in a loving caring manner... it helps us to recover.

Stay strong

L

 

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